How Checking Out In Front of the TV Clarified My Views on Masculinity

 My current path has been moving strongly out of “hibernation” and into activity and major evolution.  It’s been a lot of internal and external changes, including getting more “buff” from the gym. 

And it’s led me to points where my system feels it’s “too much/too fast” and pushes back, insists that I take it easy.  And I listened – I’ll listen for a while anyhow, a little rest and chill is good. So I flipped on some streaming.

Tried “Principles of Pleasure” for about ten minutes.  The “intersectional” and trans agendas weren’t serving me at all, so I ditched it.  I found a documentary on the “Manosphere,” which seemed interesting.

It was disappointing.  Mostly because Louis Theroux decided to make it a documentary about Louis Theroux instead of actually looking into the phenomenon with real curiosity.  What kind of men are attracted to the “Manoshpere”?  He doesn’t seem to care, he just dismisses them. 

He discusses their message, but only so far as he can do a “gotcha.”  But what is their message, and what about it resonates with so many young men today?  He doesn’t know, he doesn’t care.  Great documentary, wanker.

When I watch these things, I look for the value – what about this can be of value and service to me?  What can align with or clarify my vision?  There are aspects of the “Manoshpere” the resonate – focus on physical fitness and strength training, placing  a high value on masculine power and leadership, however imperfect their interpretation might be. 

And they are successful. Yes, a lot of them are grifters and that’s a problem.  But Justin Waller is a legitimate successful businessman.  There’s no dismissing that.  They’ve done well in their own way.  And you can argue with their morals or model but you can’t argue with success. 

So there are some positive things there.  You don’t have to support OnlyFans or like their podcast model, or even agree with much of what they say to recognize there is real value.  And there is no denying they have a following.  And that following has some commonalities.

They have clearly tapped into a crisis of masculinity.  A lot of young men are lacking any kind of male leadership in their lives.  These are men who are raised mostly (or entirely) by their mothers.  They were taught in school almost entirely by women teachers.  Maybe in high school they got into a sport and found a good male coach and some older young men who could mentor, but they’ve spent most of their lives trying to figure it out on their own.

The problem with the “Manoshpere” is it substitutes real male mentorship with grift and easy answers.  It provides little if any foundational work.  It’s a bypass, which is very attractive to people who feel lost.  There are a lot of bypasses out there.  Some lost boys join Antifa.  Some lost boys subvert their masculinity in hopes the girls will like them and they’ll be accepted (on someone else’s terms).  Some lost boys join the “Manosphere” and develop angry, reactive patterns around women.

Getting back to the documentary, while the “bros” don’t provide a great model for masculinity, it’s better than the “soy boy” model Theroux offers.  And ten minutes of “listening to women” talk about their grievance agenda was my week’s quota of torture.

So, no, weak weenie “woke” men and feminist women are not part of the solution to the crisis of masculinity. The left has no answers, since it literally created the problem in the first place and is too stubborn and arrogant to do any soul-searching. (Plus its model is about controlling people, and personal sovereignty is their enemy.)

So, yes, the “bros” are very imperfect.  But “listening to women” is not going to connect men to their masculine core.  And listening to men who went down the “listening to women” path isn’t any better. (There’s a place for that listening, but after a man has connected to his masculine core and can relate to women from a place of strength and partnership.)

Some of the things the “bros” say is accurate.  Women have no interest in men being successful, in fact it goes against their interest.  In order for a man to find his masculine core and be successful as a man, he needs to separate from women and find his own identity, free from any influence of women. This is an essential aspect of developing into manhood.

“Go your own way?”  Not so much.  Men need community.  A gym is better than nothing, but there are alternatives.  Telling men to forge their path alone is cult/grifter messaging. It’s separating and isolating someone to take advantage. 

Raging against perceived systematic oppression (“the matrix”) is horseshit.  It’s as annoying when it’s leftist women or right-wing men and it serves nobody.

But while the pattern is unhealthy, there is an element of truth that, if followed, can lead to finding that masculine core.  And that’s learning to differentiate between external programming and your personal sovereignty.  Learning to undo all of those patterns and beliefs from society, from women, from soy boys, from the media, from grifters, and everyone else and learning to differentiate from “what is someone else’s voice” and “what is my own voice.”

Now that practice is gold.  That process will transform a confused man-boy into a real man, standing in his own power, who can relate to women and the world from a place of sovereignty. 

And this process isn’t about complaining about feminists or soy boys.  It’s about noticing.  It’s about getting quiet, instead of getting angry.  It’s about really listening – to yourself, to everyone around you.  It’s about learning to feel into yourself – not your emotional reactions, but you inner sense, to recognize who you really are.  To learn to separate the bullshit outside, and even more importantly the bullshit inside, from your core self and your truth.

When you begin to understand that both the “Manosphere” and its critics are both working to manipulate you for their own gains, and can develop the patience and humility to notice how you are being manipulated, and can work on healing those parts of yourself, then you’re on your way to being a true alpha. 

Re. Feminism and Masculinity, the "Red Pill" Dudes Have Actually Swallowed the Same Blue Pill

"What if I told you both pills are blue?"

Whining About Feminism is Just as Toxic as Feminism.

Guys, if you want to get out from under the BS of Western media, the first thing you need to do is STOP BUYING INTO IT.

Let it all go.

It’s all bullshit.

You want to be a real, naturally grounded man?  Stop buying into the lies.  Notice I didn’t say “do the opposite of the lie,” I said get out entirely. 

You see, the “Red Pill” dudes, the “Men Going Their Own Way,” the angry anti-feminists, they’re all just as weak and pathetic as the guys who think they’re “woke” by handing their balls over to angry feminists. Because the problem isn’t that you’re on the wrong team, it’s that the ENTIRE GAME – the stadium, the crowds, the teams – DOESN’T EXIST in real life.

Real masculine grounded energy has NOTHING to do with artificial constructs like “patriarchy” or “feminism.”  It doesn’t care what some psycho wrote in Cosmo.  It couldn’t care less what you or anyone else thinks about Donald Trump.  It doesn’t run around trying to figure out “what women like,” or arguing with people about their opinions, or feeling angry or threatened because some socially maladjusted twit posted some screed from her computer.

I’ve seen a lot of guys who are “feminists” and “anti-feminists,” and basically they’re both different flavors of the same food:  pathetic sandwich.

If you aspire to being a man who stands in his own truth, who is grounded to his natural core, the first step is to STOP FOLLOWING THE ILLUSIONS OF OTHERS.  And “feminism” is an illusion.

Here’s a practice as an example.  Close your eyes, access stillness, and feel “feminism.”  Without thinking, without arguing, without reacting with anger or anything else, feel “feminism.”  What does it feel like?  Hot?  Cold?  Soft? Hard?

Yes, it’s a trick.  Because it DOESN’T ACTUALLY EXIST.  You can’t hold it or measure it.  It isn’t a song, it doesn’t sit in the breeze or float out in the distant universe.  You can’t call upon past or future lives to bring it to you.  IT ISN’T REAL – anywhere in the universe at any point in time.  Why?  BECAUSE IT IS AN EGO CONCEPT.

We do this with a lot of things.  The Ego tries to convince us it is real.  The Ego is actually a batch of neural pathways (so technically there is “something”) that sit in the brain and conceptualize our existence.  And along with this, we conceptualize a lot of other stuff that isn’t really there.

You think dolphins conceptualize patriarchy?  They may be aware that they exist and can die.  But no, dolphins don’t spend their time creating bullshit social constructs.  They also don’t hire coaches to teach them how to mate.  (And it appears dolphins actually do have sex for pleasure, like humans.  They just don’t have our BS hang-ups about it.)

Men in the West are trained to be afraid of women, afraid of the feminine.  It’s one thing to celebrate your masculinity, to be proud to be a man and what that means, and quite another to be afraid of women or of the feminine.  It’s not like this in every culture, but here in the West men are trained to be afraid of women. 

Men are afraid women think badly of them.  Afraid of women getting angry.  Afraid of feelings and emotions that might be considered “feminine.”  Afraid of Mom, afraid of their wives and girlfriends.  Afraid of everything woman.

And when you’re afraid of something, it owns you.  Why are so many Western men petrified little bitches when it comes to even talking to women they’re attracted to?  It’s that ingrained FEAR.  It shows up as passive fear, aggression, anger.  Even the whole “Red Pill” movement is based on fear.  As is the wimpy, supplicating “woke men” male feminist nonsense. It’s all fear – a society of wimpy men who don’t know how to deal with women, with the feminine.

I’m convinced that feminism was brought about because of Western men’s fear of women. It’s a mental disorder that manifested because the male fear of women started causing women to go crazy in response, and from that collective neurosis feminism was born.

I’m also convinced that 99% of our sexual disorders (including the really dysfunctional “normal Western sex life”) stem from this fear.  Men fear women, women respond and become neurotic.  Women become detached from their natural sexual response and expression.  Then we end up with this toxic non-orgasmic porn culture where women’s deep-seeded neurosis has led to their inability to naturally express and enjoy sex (which has in turn been defined as “normal”) while sexually objectifying themselves in ways that just make things worse and worse.

The sexual hang-ups men have also stem from fear of the feminine.  Homophobia comes from this, too (which only adds to the other problems above).

Again – other cultures where men aren’t afraid of women, women are much more connected to their orgasm.  Things that Western men are told “don’t work for women” work just fine.  Women are both more sexual, orgasmic and expressive and at the same time more modest, more careful about choosing partners, and not willing to debase themselves to satisfy some fear-based male fantasy.

In other words, men and our unnatural fear of women has fucked everything up and created all the monsters that are tormenting our lives.  Now we have feminism, distrust between the sexes, and really bad sex.  All these “issues” women have are a reflection of men’s inability to deal with this irrational fear of the feminine. 

Women aren’t born fucked up, but women are extremely adaptable and responsive, especially to men.  So if men (especially fathers) are carrying issues around women, she’ll catch those mental disorders like a virus and it fucks up her feminine expression.

This is why men like David Shade will advise men to “choose wisely,” citing “relationship to her father” as the #1 determinant of a woman’s sexual responsiveness. In other words, the less a woman is poisoned by the hang-ups of Western men, the easier it is for her to be extremely orgasmic.  He doesn’t say that last part, I connected those dots, and I’m not the first to do so.

To continue on that path a little longer, Western men are obsessed with the rational, logical mind, the ego. It’s good for some things, but when it comes to sex it sucks ass.  Western men have been given a lot of advice about “do this/ do that/ push here/ push there,” most of which focuses on the clit.  When a woman withdraws sexually, her body becomes less sensitive. This desensitization continues until only the clit (or even just a small part of the clit) is responsive, and then only with a lot of “work.”  But she wasn’t born this way, and it’s not “natural.”  Fucked up ego-driven society took away her naturally awakened feminine essence and replaced it with  rusty robot.  Then the same fucked up ego-driven world called that robot “normal” and “human.”

It dawned on me part of what Rion is doing with Natural Grounding is showing men what normal human feminine expression looks like.  And because it’s so rare in the West, it seems like Goddess energy or special or “awakened.”  I can tell you from personal observation backed up by that of many others that “awakened feminine” is actually “normal feminine.”  She’s made that way.  And as long as the men in her world don’t fuck it up by telling her there’s something wrong with being a woman, she’ll stay that way.  And she’ll go on to have a very happy and fully expressed sex life, regardless of whatever other problems she’ll have in her life.

If she senses at an early age that something is wrong, she’ll withdraw.  She doesn’t want to hurt men she cares about, so she’ll unconsciously hurt herself instead. 

And that fucked up ego-based fear is hurting men.  As long as you’re afraid of feminine polarity, you can’t access your full masculine polarity.  You become the walking mannequins we see all around – men controlled by their egos, unable to access their real masculine potential.  You become the wimpy, accommodating “nice guy,” or the posturing “aggro dude,” or the douchey “bro,” or the oppressive, insecure abusive man.  Or any combination of these.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.  We can un-learn all of these fears and hang-ups.  We can access a whole different plane of reality.  It’s a place where you’re a comfortable, grounded man, regardless of whatever other problems you have in life.  It’s a place where sex is easy, natural, very expressive and fun – because that’s how it naturally is and has been before we fucked it up with our egos.  You’ll have to let go of that limiting belief that it’s about you and your skillz and accept a higher truth that doesn’t serve your ego, but it’ll be a lot more enjoyable for you than some ego rush. 

Doesn’t that sound good?

The "Kavanaugh Ascension" and The Future of Masculinity

I’m still processing the energies from the Kavanaugh hearings, confirmation and after-effects.  This was a huge energetic tipping point and directly tied to the Ascension.  It’s far bigger than a political event.

I sense that’s why there was such a level of anger, fury, desperation and resistance from the corrupt progressive elements.  The Cabal is finally aware they are dying, that their power is slipping away and not coming back.  Progressive ideology in its current incarnation (the ties to Marxism, collectivism and repression of freedoms and thought expression) is on the downward side of the tipping point, and that tipping point was the Kavanaugh confirmation.

What we saw was the natural forces for freedom and truth that had been dormant wake up and fight back against the hysteria of feminists, cultural and economic Marxists, most of the news media and the forces of corruption and repression.  The largely silent and dormant forces were woken out of their slumber, both by the awakening energies and the shock of seeing the progressive agenda on full display.

What the progressives tried to do with Brett Kavanaugh is what they’ve been doing to people for a long time.  They’ve bullied social media, they’ve corrupted companies like Facebook and Google, they’ve corrupted the judicial process, they’ve corrupted universities.  They care only about power and control – they don’t care about life (thus the hysterical attachment to abortion), they hate God in any form, they despise truth and real Ascension (thus their hilarious hijacking of the term “woke,” even though they’re trying to force people to sleep), they despise concepts like due process and innocent until proven guilty.  They hate everything on the side of truth.  But people had a hard time seeing this until the full ugliness came out.

The cries and moans and insane depression at Kavanaugh’s confirmation is the progressives’ realization their ideology is in its death throes, and it’s never coming back.  Young people who initially embraced the ideology are rejecting it in droves.  They won’t be able to resurrect their agenda through judicial imposition.  They’ll fight – they might still win some elections – but deep down they know now what many of us have known for a while now :: the Cabal is energetically dead.

That’s not to say it isn’t still dangerous.  If you cut a rattlesnake in half it’ll die, but it can still strike.  

The dying forces can and will do a lot of damage on their way out.  Their actions will become more desperate, more violent and destructive until the life fully goes out.  So things are far from stable, but the trend is irreversible. 

That’s the situation as it stands.  But what specifically do I have to offer in the middle of all this?

And what comes to me is I have exactly that – the middle.

So I want to talk about a “middle way” for masculine development. 

There’s a lot of talk about the evolution of male-female dynamics.  I can’t really offer advice on the feminine side, except to say there is a “middle way” for women as well, but I’ll leave it to others to find that truth. (I have opinions and preferences, but they’re just that, and the world is full of opinions.)

I’m noticing more and more men who are consciously taking their development into their own hands.  Men who sense that their lives are not up to fate, but up to them.  Men who are not satisfied with how they are showing up and with their place in the world.

Men are sensing that society isn’t helping them develop their masculine core.  In fact, it’s dulling and weakening their masculine edge, and these men want more.  They want to find their strong, confident, bold embodiment and expression.

I’m also noticing there really aren’t good places for these men to go. 

There’s the gym and various physical “warrior training” modalities.  That’s okay at one level, but we all see the “gym guys” or “MMA guys” and they’re… off.  Something’s missing. 

Then there’s the PUA arena.  They help train men to be more successful at dating women.  The problem?  They don’t succeed at a very high level.  While pretty much 100% of men who go regularly to the gym or physical training modalities will see real success, the success rate for PUA training is considerably lower – around 25% - and more expensive. 

Granted, some of this is due to men not really trying to change their lot in life, but just dabbling.  But there are other problems too.  The entire industry is based on fear, anger and lack.  If not for a large supply of weak men with low self-esteem (who are also pretty desperate and not to discerning), the industry would die. But the industry is not interested in making men into, well, men.  It’s interested in making weak men into somewhat more attractive weak men.  (It’s all about the “funnel,” which is the opposite of upleveling one’s life.)

If you look at the conversations, the attitudes toward women are either adversarial, some form of frustrated anger, or detachment – they’re a means to an end.  And the end is usually social validation from other weak, angry, desperate men in the community.  Frustrated anger is not a healthy masculine edge.  Frustrated anger and the ability to attract women isn’t any better in the long run.

Throw on top of that a good physique built from the gym and you begin to see why a lot of men who are “successful PUAs” are kind of fucked up in life.  You’ve spent years developing your masculine body, and years more learning to get laid, only to find out you’re the same pathetic, weak loser guy you’ve always been, now with nowhere left to go.

Then there’s the, for lack of a better term, “wussy PUA.”  I got sucked into this branch myself pretty hard.  It sounds good – PUA is just about scoring, *WE* are about developing the WHOLE MAN.

Except it isn’t.

It’s about retaining the extreme feminist and cultural Marxist ideology.  There’s a lot of yoga and meditation and “non-judgment” in these modalities.  There’s a lot of talk about embodiment and “valuing women” and “real connection.”  They TALK about healthy masculine, but the funny thing is, you look around in these groups and there is none.

There’s a lot of soft men who feel at some level they need the approval of women – they need women to sign off on what they’re doing.  “Is it okay if we do this?”  “Please, women, tell us men what we’re doing wrong and what you want us to do.”  They talk about patriarchy and “toxic masculinity.”  They’re really big on pointing out what “average men” are doing wrong.  And the other message is “average men” are wrong.

There’s a lot of focus on embodiment and “owning your feelings,” instead of repressing them.  As long as those emotions are nice things like crying a lot and being weak, needy and vulnerable.  Yes, those are real emotions.  But so is anger.  So is aggression. 

There are many other issues with the “wussy PUA” modality.  Yes, it is possible to be weak and supplicating to women and be quite successful in dating.  These modalities seem to be curiously modeled after the cults of years past.  There’s a lot of reference to Osho – a Satanic cult leader and felon.  There’s a lot of approval of prostitution as positive self-expression and support for prostitution cults that are busted by the police.  There’s a LOT of approval of drug use.  In fact, good luck finding ANYONE in that modality who advocates against the use of marijuana or any other drugs. 

Nudism, polygamy, celebration of indiscriminate sexual connections under the guise of “opposing slut-shaming,” a general disapproval of jobs that actually pay the bills, a visceral opposition to the “nuclear family” and any organized religion that might cause people to question their selfish behavior.

You can bet that “getting a tattoo” will be part of the “ritual of masculinity.”  But you know what won’t be part of that “ritual?”  Actually becoming a man – a man with an edge, a man with a sense of responsibility, a man who doesn’t ask women if he’s being a man in an acceptable way.  There’s lots of yoga and Tantra and “getting in touch with your feelings” crap from the 60s hippie cults.  It’s marshmallow masculinity.

So men can be gym rats, angry bitter “red-pill” PUAs, wussy feminist yogas, or….

I called it “Middle Way,” but now that I think about it, it’s more “other way.”  Basically, don’t buy any of that crap.  They’re all trying to guide men under this failed cultural umbrella.  I look at other cultures and there’s a natural way.  And it can be developed.

The cultures where masculinity is strong men embrace their masculine polarity.  They’re MEN.  Not anti-women, not supplicating wussbags, but actual MEN standing in their own right. 

And in these cultures, not everything about men is met with approval by women.  And that’s the way it should be.  Men aren’t here to answer to women.  And despite the rhetoric, we all know women sure as heck don’t answer to men.  Women are intuitive and flexible and will RESPOND to men, but women do – and have always done – what they want in the end.

All this whining about “patriarchy” and “oppression” is BS.  It’s a lie.  Every household tells the truth – nobody’s telling women what to do.  If anything, it’s completely the other way around. The whining about “patriarchy” is a grasp for POLITICAL POWER and cultural hegemony.  Feminism is one big fat lie that will get men nowhere in life.  It’s BS worthless university professors pass around to justify having a job they know deep down inside is 100% useless.  They’re frauds, scared to death the world will figure out they are such and force them to get real jobs.  That’s why they scream so loud, to drown out the honest questions both from outside and in their own mind.

Natural masculinity embraces the polarity.  It has an edge.  It is naturally dominant.  It values competition and yes, fighting.  It values strength, courage, personal responsibility and protecting others. It cares for women, it doesn’t kowtow to women. It protects and provides.  And it elicits very strong, powerful, positive reactions from women.  It encourages women to embrace their natural polarity. 

In societies where men are naturally masculine, men and women are partners, not rivals.  Men also aren’t afraid of women.  Men stand in their own space and know their own worth.  Female disapproval is kind of a Western construct, but reality is different.

Yes, natural masculinity comes off a bit “macho.”  That’s a good thing, it’s self-esteem.  It’s not being afraid of your own strength and worth. Does it sometimes go overboard?  Yes.  Humans are imperfect. But at its essence it is strength and confidence at its core, and a healthy pride in being a man. Men – older men – are looked up to and admired. They’re an inspiration to boys growing up.  Fatherhood is highly valued and respected. 

Natural masculinity is not afraid to express desire for women, because he knows he is desirable.  He doesn’t “tone it down” or worry about offending her by being himself.  PUA – what’s that?  Yoga?  Get that shit out of here. 

Western men who travel around the world find that naturally masculine men tend to look down on them.  It’s not jealousy, it’s not “white privilege” or any of that BS.  They can sense most Western men aren’t “intact.”  Most Western men are weak and have disavowed their masculinity, or replaced it with a weird, disembodied form of angry aggression.  And naturally masculine men sense this and have no respect for this weakness. 

Something about the modern Western culture disconnects men.  Some of it is the overreliance on thinking and ego – a lack of embodiment.  Some is Western society’s constant attack on boys and men.  Some is Western society’s embrace of cultural Marxism and this bizarre concept of “equality,” which is the opposite of natural polarity.  A lot of it is just a Western society that’s too damn stressed and unhappy about everything.

I’ve said Natural Grounding won’t help much in dating by itself.  But it can serve as a valuable reference point for men to find that natural masculine center.  It takes more than videos, but it’s a start.  Energetic cleansing and attuning can help. So can a physical regimen that includes some form of competitive, “aggressive” action.  Yoga won’t really get you there, but competitive sports and contact/ sparring sports can.  Meditation by itself is passive and limited in effectiveness, but in the context of a larger process is helpful for clearing the thinking mind and de-stressing.

Over time, you can differentiate solid, grounded masculine polarity from its false counterparts. You can notice a weak man pretending to be strong, you can see the soft mushiness of the man who has neglected his core and the man who is operating from stress-induced and thought-induced anger instead of embodied natural aggressive energies.   You can spot the “spiritual man” who is strong in his “sky energy” but weak in his “earth masculine” (the “inverted pyramid”).

And you’ll begin to see how phony and deceitful the structures around you really are.  You’ll begin to see the difference between how the media portrays men and women and what’s really going on. You’ll begin to see that what women say they want and how they actually respond are completely different.  You won’t need some coach to tell you how to interact with women, because you’ll discover that being a naturally-grounded man is attractive to women.  You’ll find yourself acting different and separate from the old fears and illusions.  And you’ll begin to realize how rare that kind of man is in Western society (and if you travel, how common it is elsewhere).

Yes, it’s like taking a red pill and waking up from the illusion, but nothing like the weak, angry, ego-driven “Red Pill” men.  You’ll actually BE different, not arguing the point in online groups.  You’ll walk, talk, think, feel, behave – not like a man, but AS a man. 

A naturally grounded man can acknowledge that feminism exists – and that it’s a joke.  That the whole political and media circus is an illusion.  None of it is real.  And I say naturally grounded as in aligned with your true human masculine nature, it’s not the same thing as what Rion is doing.  His stuff can help, but 95% of the work is going to be you – completely separate from any coaching or training stuff – shedding the false structures on your own.

And as you start feeling more of your natural core, you might sense some sadness and regret.  A lot of men in this world grow up being that natural man, they don’t get misled by some Western illusion. Maybe you’ll begin sensing that and feel regret and resentment for the good years that were cheated from you. That’s also a natural feeling – if you get released from prison after having done nothing wrong, you’ll value your freedom but also feel very restful for being put in there. While working to right the wrongs of society is important (I’ve taken a much more active stance when it comes to politics and the media precisely because of this) it’s also important to look forward and not spend too much time looking of your shoulder at what could have and should have been.

And finally, becoming a naturally grounded man will not make you a world-class ladies man.  It will put you where you need to be (if you follow your heart).  And for most men, that’s not a ladies man.  You’ll have freedom and access, but you’ll also find your place where you really belong.  And for a lot of men (the huge majority), that’s as the head of a healthy family. 

So if this ends up leading you to “marriage and children,” that doesn’t mean you did something wrong.  It probably means you did something right.  (Assuming you actually grew through the process and this is a conscious decision based on what you see as best for you and the greater good.)  A lot of coaches seem to look down on marriage, which is too bad.  There’s nothing noble about being single and dating a lot of women.  It’s one option.  It comes with positives and negatives.  It’s a possibility, not a goal.  Remember, a lot of good men have laid down their lives to protect their families.  Not too many will make that sacrifice to protect their right to stay single.  Something to think about.

Men: Don't #metoo. #BeYou

Yet another “#metoo man” has been busted as a hypocrite and a fraud.  This time slimy loser New York AG Eric Schneiderman.  Just as Donald Trump predicted back in 2013.

This kind of thing should come as a surprise to absolutely nobody with brain cells. #metoo movement has become a complete joke.  It began as a “brave” attempt by women to uncover the obvious – Hollywood power brokers are really, really, really creepy, perverted, disgusting losers.  Anyone who knows anything about Hollywood should be completely un-surprised about revelations about losers like Harvey Weinstein. 

But ok, let’s say for argument’s sake that you’re among the group of people living under a rock who actually look up to people like Weinstein. Then the initial revelations had some value.  But that quickly devolved into a rather pathetic attempt by women to share their old wounds, get attention and embarrass their exes.  In other words, it went the way of pretty much every Internet hashtag, turning into a joke meme.

But then, not to be outdone, men who call themselves “woke” jumped on the bandwagon with their own lame sob stories, or just trying to get attention for themselves and create a false image that they’re “woke.” 

Again, it should be obvious what’s going on here.  Men who try to present a public persona as being virtuous, instead of just, you know, living a virtuous life (which includes humility), are trying to hide the fact they’re scoundrels. Every time.  Every single guy publicly professing himself as “woke” is hiding a black heart.  Because truly good men don’t do that shit.  Because truly good men wouldn’t think of trying to cloak themselves in virtue, that’s not how it works.  The only kind of people who publicly shroud themselves in virtue are people who NEED to do so, because they ARE NOT.

A few people called this out, but a lot more actually APPLAUDED these “men.”  I’ve been saying all the time – just wait, the truth will come out.  And sure enough, it’s coming out.  To the surprise of only the stupid people, the #metoo men are coming out, one by one, and being exposed for the low lives they truly are.

Again, NOBODY who is truly a good person spends time trying to craft an image of being good.  In fact, many good men go to some length to show they are NOT perfectly good.  Nobody wants to be labeled a “goodie two-shoes.”  The good men I know are so far away from the stupid “woke” stuff and virtue signaling it’s not even funny. 

Don’t be fooled.  Image crafting is for scoundrels and liars.  Good people don’t do this.  Good men don’t, anyhow.  Maybe it’s different for women because visual is valued much higher in women.  But in men – no. 

I’m surrounded by a lot of idiots.  I give a lot of thought to simply dropping them, but I don’t.  They have value even though they are annoying and really stupid in a lot of ways.  And because I need to learn to suffer fools more gladly, it’s my weakness. 

Somehow I ended up in the middle of a group of men who imagine themselves “sex gods.”  For a while some of their stupid rubbed off on me, but now I see them as the loveable but crazy family member.  Some of these guys are neck-deep in some messed-up sex communities that are glorified rape cults.  They call themselves “Tantra,” but they seem to have little to do with expanding sensual and spiritual experience and more about gaining easy access to pussy.

Then after a few years in this environment, some of the men begin to develop a conscience – “wow, you know… just because these women are readily available doesn’t mean what I’m doing is okay, maybe I should start considering other people’s feelings instead of just being selfish “spiritual asshole.”  Then they start publicly talking about “consent” and lecturing men on how to not treat women like garbage.

The thing is, these guys, God bless em, think everyone is going through what they’re going through.  Most men AREN’T.  And most women aren’t going through what most “Tantra women” are going through.  The kind of women who would be attracted to “indiscriminate free love” are not in a good place.  They came there because they were already wounded – many experienced sexual abuse and/or drug and alcohol problems and found Tantra to heal.  Taking advantage of wounded women like that is the opposite of evolved.

These guys finally look around and realize “hey, MAYBE I’m being a LITTLE bit of an asshole and should change” and call themselves “woke.”  They surround themselves with other self-deluded, arrogant people who share a certain ideology that caters to that kind of delusion, and they delude themselves into thinking they’re leaders instead of terribly wounded men who should shut up and take care of their problems instead of lecturing others.

I’ve noticed, almost without exception, the men giving free advice about virtue and sexuality are the ones who are the most problematic in their own lives and personal relationships.  It’s to the point where when I see men doing this (as I did myself when I was acting out my wounds instead of healing), I can pinpoint where he is in his healing journey – it’s a form of denial and self-delusion as a form of protection.

Look, we’re not perfect.  We all made mistakes in our lives that we regret.  At some point, we need to own our stuff and really heal.  That doesn’t happen by jumping on #metoo bandwagons, calling yourself “woke,” lecturing others on virtue, or trying to prove to the world you’re some kind of sex god.  Those things are very obvious ways to hide the bad stuff you don’t want people to see.  It’s what bad people (like that AG) do so they can continue doing bad things.

Is that who you are?  Are you a bad person who is creating a mask so he can keep doing bad things?  Are you an immature man who doesn’t want to grow up and so he tells everyone what a sex god he is?  Are you living in pain and self-doubt and want to delude yourself into thinking you’re spiritual by creating an image instead of doing the work?

Or are you just misled?

Guys, drop the woke shit.  Get off the #metoo bandwagon.  Stop giving everyone else your lame unsolicited advice on sex and spirituality.  It’s okay.  Whatever you’re going through, it’s okay.  You don’t have to hide behind bullshit slogans and virtue signaling.  Instead od #metoo just #beyou.

I'm Starting to Like Donald Trump - and Hate The Progressives

I really like what Donald Trump is doing as President.  To say I’m pleasantly surprised by the job he is doing would be an understatement.  I’m elated with the job he’s doing.  In fact, I’m not sure there is a US president in my over-forty-year lifetime who I can say did a better job, certainly not over the period of time that Trump has been President.  It’s been nothing sort of remarkable.

Which means I was very wrong about Trump.  I thought he was a terrible candidate in the primaries, and a just-slightly-better-than-his-opponent candidate in the general election.  I thought he would be a poor President, but at least better than the alternative.  I was wrong.  The Republican primary voters made the best choice and Trump, despite having zero political experience and running the weirdest campaign I’ve ever seen for any office, is turning out to be a very, very good President.

Moreover, I’m finding myself actually warming up to Donald Trump the man.  Yah, despite all his personal flaws on display, I’m finding I actually like the guy.  He’s not perfect, but none of us is.  And the fact that his rough edges are there for everyone to see, and that he keeps going and doesn’t let his imperfections stop him, makes him likable.

 

There, I said it.  I like Donald Trump.  I’ve actually gone all the way from “Never Trump” to a fan of the man and a huge supporter of his presidency.  Not just because he’s conservative, but because he’s actually doing a good job in office.  I was wrong about him. 

And I am wrong about what it takes to be a good US President.  Experience in politics is overrated.  Even policy is secondary. Strength in convictions and the ability to keep fighting and making good decisions is everything in a good US leader, and Trump has those qualities in spades.

Yah, yah.  He has a lot of marriages in his past.  Me too.  He’s been unfaithful to women. I’m not sure that’s even a black mark on a person anymore – I’ve seen too many people who are “faithful” and evil, and who are “unfaithful” and good people that I’ve come to the point that fidelity is a personal lifestyle choice that has almost nothing to do with a person’s character and judgment (apart from their personal relationships). 

He says crude things about women. Problem is, while women “officially” say “oh that’s bad,” the truth is women are very attracted to men who embody those sorts of qualities.  Confidence is sexy.  “Being polite” is actually a hinderance to attraction.  I’ve addressed this contradiction elsewhere, but men who are faithful , loving, attentive, polite and respect a woman’s personal boundaries are at an inherent disadvantage when it comes to attracting women. Because women are a contradiction.  Men too.  Our basic natures are in constant conflict with “civilization,” precisely because “civilization” is specifically designed to mute and repress human nature. 

But human nature in its unvarnished form is sexy.  And deep down, women are powerfully attracted to men who are like Trump.  (In fact there’s been a fair amount of conversation around women who “officially” hate Trump but who are irresistibly attracted to MAGA guys, because those guys are more naturally connected to their masculine sexuality.  This is absolutely the truth – women love “populist conservative” men – men like Trump, not “refined” conservatives like Jeb Bush, and definitely not liberal men – those guys get cheated on, a lot.)

And that may seem off-topic, but it isn’t.  I said I like Trump.  Not just his policies, not just the fact he’s conservative, not just his deal-making, but the man himself (the man supposedly everyone hates).  His brash, unvarnished, confident, unapologetic masculinity is refreshing and inspiring.  This is a man who stands in his power, who fights for what he believes in.  And who fights for the people who I like – the decent people in the “vast middle” of the country who are far away from the politics and culture of the “civilized” big cities (which I hate).

I may personally like drinking wine and craft beer, but I relate to the people who drink Budweiser.  I may personally love Thai and Asian food and be very immersed in other cultures, but I still identify with the small-town people and those who love a good barbequed steak.  I may have a professional job, but I really identify with people who work with their hands.

Even in my connection with Thailand, my “roots” are rural farming and small villages – it’s Thai Trump Country.  Bangkok is nice to visit, but not where my heart is.  I love home cooked meals and don’t like going to restaurants and paying a fortune.  I like a simple life.  I like low taxes, minimal government services and a world where the government largely stays the hell out of everything.  And amazingly, this billionaire from New York is the only US President I’ve ever seen who truly fights for the people I identify with and the things I believe in.

Which is why I’m starting to like him – he’s a lot like me. He’s an urban professional with the heart of a farmer in “flyover country.”  He’s a Thai “Red Shirt” with a Republican Red Hat.  He fights for the people without shoving the government up their ass. 

And he REALLY fights, no matter what.  The media doesn’t get the last word with him.  The “city folks” don’t own him.  I trust him.  Ironically, I trust him.  Because his words might contradict, but his ACTIONS don’t.  I don’t care what someone says – I’m skeptical of polished speakers. I care what they do and his actions as President are the most trustworthy I’ve seen of any President.  He can tell a hundred lies before breakfast, but I have no doubt he will do right by the people I care about.  That’s trustworthiness. 

And the more I grow to like Trump, the more I’m growing to despise his haters.  Because in every way, they are proving to be the opposite of Trump.  Muted, subservient, unsexy masculinity, wimpy, flaky, oppressive, and completely disrespectful of the people I love. 

It’s not even about policy – though I hate their ideology too, but I can live with that.  It’s personal.  The whole conversation around “toxic masculinity.”  Heck, the whole “conversation” bullshit itself.  The “collectivism for everyone but me” attitude.  The smarminess.  The arrogance.  The false sense of intellectual heft (most of the “resistance” who imagines themselves  smart are truly not that intelligent, they just stupidly repeat each others’ talking points like parrots), the inability to cook a meal at home or do their own laundry or any other basic human function, their stubborn attachment to bad sex (even among the supposedly “evolved”) and even worse sexual roles.  Even the way they dress themselves and the drinks they order at Starbuck’s and the bar. Their incessant need to try to tell everyone what to do, how to think, down to every stupid little detail, instead of butting the fuck out and giving people space.  The whole “manspreading” and “mansplaining” bullshit. The motherfucking Yoga classes and attire.  All of it.

It’s gone beyond annoying.  I’m growing to detest these people and lose respect for them as human beings.  Because it’s impossible to really respect people who constantly disrespect themselves and everyone else. 

I grew up around people who disagreed with me politically.  That’s fine.  I like that disagreement.  This is cultural.  “Progressive” culture sucks.  Because the people who created that culture and buy into it fucking suck as people.  I’ve been around the world and seen a lot and Western “progressive culture” is THE WORST.  It ABSOLUTELY.  FUCKING. SUCKS.  Asia doesn’t have this shit.  “Red country” US doesn’t have this shit.  Africa doesn’t have this shit.  South America doesn’t have this shit. Western Europe, US, Canada, Australia and New Zealand urban areas have this shit – and nobody else – and it FUCKING SUCKS.  Western urban progressives are LITERALLY the worst human beings on Planet Earth.

There, I said it.  And I mean every word.  And it took the election of Donald Trump and the emergence of Western Progressives in their full, ugly glory to bring it fully to light.

I can see now what’s going on with the “Resistance.”  This isn’t about getting a flawed man out of the White House.  It’s nothing but a bald-faced attack on “us,” the huge majority of people who are proud to NOT be Western Progressives.  That’s what this is.  It has nothing to do with Trump and everything to do with these pathetic assholes’ disdain for “flyover people,” whether those people are in the US or Thailand or anywhere else. 

And all this crap about “toxic masculinity” isn’t about making us better people.  It’s about neutering powerful men.  And it’s bullshit.  I’d rather live with the “rough edges” of society than submit to the bullshit “civilization” Western Progressives want for us.  And I will fight with every last breath for my side, because it’s becoming clear Progressives aren’t just in polite disagreement with me, they want me dead. 

They want everyone who isn’t them dead.  They’re no different than the “purgers” under Stalin, Hitler, Pol Pot and Mao.  They just give themselves a different name, but their aim is the same – complete hegemony and the destruction of the “other side.”  There is no middle ground.  They’re at war with us.  They’re trying to overturn an election in the US – not because they think Trump is unsuitable, but because they honestly believe his VOTERS are unsuitable.  They believe people like me and the people I love are “unsuitable.”

The “Resistance” loves to compare Trump to Hitler, but that comparison belies a truth in their own nature.  While the people they hate support “mind your own business,” it is the Progressives who actively support Hitleresque policies – “hate speech,” government intervention in every aspect of life, purging opposition, and socialism are all Hitler/ Nazi things.  Saul Alinsky would be right at home in Nazi Germany – his tactics were lifted from Nazi propaganda and power-grabbing tactics.  Abortion – especially selective abortion for things like Downs Syndrome - is 100% a Nazi concept that is a critical part of eugenics.  Anti-Semitism and hatred of Israel is a Progressive thing.  It’s very, very clear who are the Nazis – the ones calling everyone else Nazis. 

But let’s look at the facts.  Harvey Weistein is “theirs,” not “ours.”  The rapists in the Tantra and Yoga communities (and it’s fucking RAMPANT) are “theirs,” not “ours.”  The gangs are all “theirs.”  The homeless encampments are “theirs.”  Bill Cosby is “theirs.”  The massive immigrant underclass is all “theirs.”  Islamic terror is “theirs.”  Don’t believe me?  Whose wearing their fucking SYMBOL of OPPRESSION, the hajib?  Not us.  We spread our legs on the subway and “say mean things,” they’re fucking RAPING and KILLING.

We like home-cooked meals prepared by women who love us.  We adore women who do laundry, clean the house, take good care of our children and love and respect us.  They create fucking RAPE CULTS, they systematically rape aspiring starlets, they support a culture that rapes and beats women.  They lie about the damage abortion causes to women.  But look who their society has made the enemy – those “patriarchal men.” 

Well, fuck them.  Good women are with us. MOST women are with us.  Deep down, most of these “progressive” women would GLADLY stay at home and raise children – and be DELIERIOUSLY HAPPY doing so – with a man who made her feel like a real woman and truly took care of her.  Trump may be a poor husband in his personal life, but he speaks for the men and women who get it and who haven’t bought into the bullshit Progressive culture trap.

So yah.  I like Trump. I’m liking him more and more every day.  And I’m seeing the truth about his enemies.  Because they’re my enemies too. And I won’t ignore that anymore.

Camille Paglia Really Gets It

This seems to be the lone sane, intelligent, powerful voice amidst the "Feminist" shit blizzard.  She's sex-positive, feminine-positive, and male-positive while promoting female power.  So of course universities and leftist idiots want her banned.

She really gets it.  This is the kind of thought that will move us forward.

The Crisis of Masculinity, Musings #1: Female "Men's Coaches" Only Make Things Worse

I have a lot to say about this subject.  This will be my "starting point" for a larger discussion.  This is mostly first takes I put down to get the ball rolling.  

There is a crisis in masculinity in our society.  This isn’t a new thing, by the way, it’s been a slowly-evolving crisis that began in the 1960s and has grown to this point today.  Men have lost their grounding, their purpose.  They’ve lost their balls.

Ten years ago we called it the “pussification of Western Society,” but that went out of vogue (ironically) because it was considered politically incorrect – and so the men saying this basically cut of their own balls to appease the complainers and stopped saying it.  And Western Society continued its unabated march toward pussification without any further commentary.

Which is too bad.  A big part of any movement to help men claim their power is going to involve pissing people off.  It’s going to involve being “politically incorrect.”  It’s going to involve calling a pussy a pussy – whether physical or metaphorical. 

Because men reclaiming their masculinity and asserting their power and natural dominant energy is going to involve a certain amount of aggression, pushing back, and fighting against forces that want to keep men down and have grown comfortable with the current dynamic.  It’s not going to be done with the permission and support of women, because some of it is going to come at their expense.  That’s just the nature of the beast.

It doesn’t mean an all-out war against women or a perpetuation of the “battle of the sexes,” but self-assertion, by its nature, means a certain amount of, well, standing up for one’s self.  Against others.  In other words, conflict where one side wins and the other loses, or at least has to back off on your terms.

Men are naturally dominant.  Men are natural leaders.  Men have been shirking their power and responsibilities, which means women have been filling some of this vacuum. Now, a lot of women (most) would be very happy to see their men lead – they’ve been dying for men to finally step up and BE MEN. 

But some women like having that power and are not going to be happy to see men taking back that power.  If men stopped being pussies, these women stand to lose their dominance over men and their comfortable relationships.  Most of those women would likely get dumped.  A lot of women who suck at relationships and get by on male guilt and disempowerment would have to face up to the reality that they’re failing as women.

If men step up and find their power, men will have choice, and they won’t choose second and third-rate women.  That means some women who currently “rule the roost” at home will find themselves bitter and lonely in their older years when their boy toy stops putting up with their crap and takes his balls back.

There are a number of coaches who claim to be supporting men in their empowerment.  I’m skeptical of most of them.  Mostly because they seem to be taking far too much advice and energy from women in their endeavors.  Male empowerment is something men need to do on their own – a woman simply can’t do it for him or show him the way.  A man needs to find that man inside him.  A woman might know it when she sees it in a man, she’s going to be useless in helping a man find it.

Worse, she’s going to be a weakening influence on the coach.  He’s going to be looking over his shoulder to make sure he’s not offending the female point of view.  He’s going to be listening to some (at best) useless or (at worst) downright harmful advice. 

The measurement of a man’s connection with his masculinity is not in the approval of women.  Or of other men, for that matter.  This seeking approval is a big cause of the pussification in the first place.  More of the problem won’t lead to a solution.

Some aspects of a man’s connection with his natural masculinity will resonate strongly with women.  But not all of it.  If a man is grounded in his masculine energy, there are some things that will piss women off.  There are some things that will be a turn-off.  Overall, male-female relationships will be better and the attraction will be stronger, but it won’t be the way women want things to be.

A strong, powerful man takes up space, physically and energetically.  He’s grounded and sure in himself.  Which means he doesn’t need you and isn’t going to go along with what you want just to accommodate you or earn your approval.  In fact, your approval means little or nothing to him – he will place a much higher value on his approval and judgment than yours.  As he should – a man whose grounded and sure of himself will trust his judgment above all others.  It’s one of the hallmarks of masculinity (and of being sure of oneself, by definition). 

This means others are not going to get their way over him.  It doesn’t mean he’ll be an ogre – he’ll likely be very reasonable and consider many points of view (as other points of view don’t threaten him).  Women will likely find their man’s interest in a variety of viewpoints very threatening, since he’ll place as much weight on a stranger’s opinion as hers, assuming it’s a reasonable argument.   Women will also find grounded men frustrating because he’ll have no problem crossing her, and feel zero regret in doing so – he’s that solid in himself as a man.

What’s the difference between a man whose grounded, solid, reliable, trustworthy – and one whose stubborn, strong-headed, insensitive, and selfish?  Whether or not she agrees with his decisions.  But who gives a fuck if she agrees?  A good man, a man who is solid and grounded and truly embodies his masculinity, is going to do things women in his life don’t agree with.  If a woman doesn’t feel her man is “sometimes stubborn and disagreeable, generally good but sometimes insensitive,” he’s not in his full masculine.

This is why women teaching men to be masculine is dangerous.  No way will that woman encourage him to go all the way – that would be such a threat to her own power it would be unthinkable. 

I mean really – why would a woman WANT to coach men to be more masculine?  Think about it.  Does she want men to truly stand in their power and go their own way, often against her own best interests?  Of course not.  She wants men to be JUST POWERFUL ENOUGH to be “attractive enough,” and maybe (if she’s lucky) to sidetrack the men who might be truly on their path – confuse them just enough to keep them disempowered just enough. 

Nobody wants you to be truly powerful.  Well, that’s not true, but certainly no coach whose taking your money (because you might put him out of a job, or take his pick of women if you were truly in your power) and no woman you don’t know.  Maybe your sister has your back, if she’s *really* cool.  MAYBE.

A female “men’s coach” has NO REAL INTEREST in helping men be men.  It is something a man has to do on his own – with some help from other men.

There is a reason fathers are the ones who historically initiated their sons into manhood.  Because they’re the only men who love their sons enough to be willing to seem them become MORE POWERFUL than them – and who know what masculinity is.  You think even your male “coach” wants to see you overtake his power?  Of course not, he wants you to be good enough to PROMOTE HIM, but ALWAYS UNDER HIM. 

“Please, take my clients and steal my women” – said by no coach ever.  But if you REALLY WANT to fully embody your masculinity, you have to adopt some of that attitude, that “I’m going to eat your lunch and make you watch” kind of attitude.  Not that you’ll go around being a dick to people, but you have that power and aren’t afraid to use it.  And sometimes you do.

Trust me, I’ve seen these coaches pull this on their OWN STUDENTS.  EVERY coach.  He’s either taken some student’s woman or proven to himself he could.  He knows that client is his little bitch.  You think that client is EVER going to step into his masculinity under that coach?

No.  But listen to the song “Wrapped Around Your Finger” by the Police.  There’s a twist at the end.  If you’re going to step into your full masculinity, you need to be prepared to go ALL the way and be the master.  Which means at some point you’ll have to separate from any coach and go the final steps yourself.  (And hopefully be gracious enough not to do to him what you know he’d have done to you – though he’d have it coming.)

And female coaches don’t even want that much for you.

Coaching will only get you some of the way.  It’s up to you to take it from there. 

But I want to go back to the whole “female men’s coach.”  I’ve always been very skeptical of the kind of women who sign up for this.  And the more I’ve looked around, the more assured I am that my initial skepticism was correct.  There’s something inherently fucked up about women who seek out men to coach, especially to “be more masculine.”  And every one of the women I’ve seen who are in that business are… odd.  Putting it gently.

I can always tell when a men’s program has jumped the shark – it’s when they start hiring women.

Again, men, you want to find your balls, don’t seek out the woman whose seeking out men without balls.  (I’ll give you a minute.)

The big part of the problem for men who are lacking masculinity is they’ve already spent too much time around women.  Many were raised by single moms.  Others had a wussy father figure.  Others spent entirely too much time around women and didn’t have male friends growing up.  The last thing men like this need is MORE FEMALE ADVICE. 

So again, men, if you’re looking to deepen your masculinity, make this YOUR journey. Coaches are fine as GUIDES (but way overused and becoming the new first-world status symbol), but in the end it’s your life and your work – start stepping up, take your balls in your hand, and DO THE FUCKING WORK YOURSELF.  Stop listening to women’s advice.  For God’s sake, DON’T hire a female coach (or use a coaching service that employs female coaches) to teach you “how to be a man.”  If you’re doing these things – STOP!  You’re wasting time and money.  Take ownership of your own life, stand on your own feet and STOP trying to figure out what women and other people want you to do – that’s what got you in this mess to begin with.

Bottom line, if you want to stop being a pussy, the first step is to stop listening to pussies.  Politically correct?  Yep.  And spot on, and you know it.