My current path has been moving strongly out of “hibernation” and into activity and major evolution. It’s been a lot of internal and external changes, including getting more “buff” from the gym.
And it’s led me to points where my system feels it’s “too
much/too fast” and pushes back, insists that I take it easy. And I listened – I’ll listen for a while
anyhow, a little rest and chill is good. So I flipped on some streaming.
Tried “Principles of Pleasure” for about ten minutes. The “intersectional” and trans agendas weren’t
serving me at all, so I ditched it. I
found a documentary on the “Manosphere,” which seemed interesting.
It was disappointing.
Mostly because Louis Theroux decided to make it a documentary about
Louis Theroux instead of actually looking into the phenomenon with real
curiosity. What kind of men are
attracted to the “Manoshpere”? He doesn’t
seem to care, he just dismisses them.
He discusses their message, but only so far as he can do a “gotcha.” But what is their message, and what about it
resonates with so many young men today?
He doesn’t know, he doesn’t care.
Great documentary, wanker.
When I watch these things, I look for the value – what about
this can be of value and service to me?
What can align with or clarify my vision? There are aspects of the “Manoshpere” the
resonate – focus on physical fitness and strength training, placing a high value on masculine power and
leadership, however imperfect their interpretation might be.
And they are successful. Yes, a lot of them are grifters and
that’s a problem. But Justin Waller is a
legitimate successful businessman. There’s
no dismissing that. They’ve done well in
their own way. And you can argue with
their morals or model but you can’t argue with success.
So there are some positive things there. You don’t have to support OnlyFans or like
their podcast model, or even agree with much of what they say to recognize
there is real value. And there is no
denying they have a following. And that
following has some commonalities.
They have clearly tapped into a crisis of masculinity. A lot of young men are lacking any kind of
male leadership in their lives. These
are men who are raised mostly (or entirely) by their mothers. They were taught in school almost entirely by
women teachers. Maybe in high school
they got into a sport and found a good male coach and some older young men who
could mentor, but they’ve spent most of their lives trying to figure it out on
their own.
The problem with the “Manoshpere” is it substitutes real
male mentorship with grift and easy answers.
It provides little if any foundational work. It’s a bypass, which is very attractive to
people who feel lost. There are a lot of
bypasses out there. Some lost boys join Antifa. Some lost boys subvert their masculinity in
hopes the girls will like them and they’ll be accepted (on someone else’s
terms). Some lost boys join the “Manosphere”
and develop angry, reactive patterns around women.
Getting back to the documentary, while the “bros” don’t
provide a great model for masculinity, it’s better than the “soy boy” model
Theroux offers. And ten minutes of “listening
to women” talk about their grievance agenda was my week’s quota of torture.
So, no, weak weenie “woke” men and feminist women are not part
of the solution to the crisis of masculinity. The left has no answers, since it
literally created the problem in the first place and is too stubborn and
arrogant to do any soul-searching. (Plus its model is about controlling people,
and personal sovereignty is their enemy.)
So, yes, the “bros” are very imperfect. But “listening to women” is not going to
connect men to their masculine core. And
listening to men who went down the “listening to women” path isn’t any better.
(There’s a place for that listening, but after a man has connected to his
masculine core and can relate to women from a place of strength and
partnership.)
Some of the things the “bros” say is accurate. Women have no interest in men being
successful, in fact it goes against their interest. In order for a man to find his masculine core
and be successful as a man, he needs to separate from women and find his own
identity, free from any influence of women. This is an essential aspect of
developing into manhood.
“Go your own way?”
Not so much. Men need
community. A gym is better than nothing,
but there are alternatives. Telling men
to forge their path alone is cult/grifter messaging. It’s separating and
isolating someone to take advantage.
Raging against perceived systematic oppression (“the matrix”)
is horseshit. It’s as annoying when it’s
leftist women or right-wing men and it serves nobody.
But while the pattern is unhealthy, there is an element of
truth that, if followed, can lead to finding that masculine core. And that’s learning to differentiate between
external programming and your personal sovereignty. Learning to undo all of those patterns and
beliefs from society, from women, from soy boys, from the media, from grifters,
and everyone else and learning to differentiate from “what is someone else’s
voice” and “what is my own voice.”
Now that practice is gold.
That process will transform a confused man-boy into a real man, standing
in his own power, who can relate to women and the world from a place of sovereignty.
And this process isn’t about complaining about feminists or
soy boys. It’s about noticing. It’s about getting quiet, instead of getting
angry. It’s about really listening – to yourself,
to everyone around you. It’s about
learning to feel into yourself – not your emotional reactions, but you inner
sense, to recognize who you really are.
To learn to separate the bullshit outside, and even more importantly the
bullshit inside, from your core self and your truth.
When you begin to understand that both the “Manosphere” and
its critics are both working to manipulate you for their own gains, and can
develop the patience and humility to notice how you are being manipulated, and
can work on healing those parts of yourself, then you’re on your way to being a
true alpha.
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