Good Men Love Women Who Cook and Clean. Deal With It.

There was Feminist Outrage ™ on Twitter over some long-haired dude who put out what was essentially a list of things he required in a girlfriend.  Apparently women who didn’t feel they met the requirements were upset.  Because – damn, there goes your shot at this random Twitter guy??

Or is it because this guy and his list might convince other guys to follow his lead and start asking for certain standards in their partners?

I guess that’s the big fear – that quality men will start asserting themselves and coming up with requirements for the women they choose to spend their time with.  And since the feminists proudly lack those qualities, that would mean said feminists would also not receive the attention of said quality men.

Well, sorry ladies, but it’s already happening.  The guys who have value are waking up and asserting themselves when it comes to standards.  And they’re finding that most feminist women are seriously lacking.

Knowing how to cook a meal is a basic requirement of being a functioning human being.  And it’s a quality that most American women under 30 (and far too many over 30 for that matter) now lack – because of laziness, being raised by crappy parents, and a fucked up belief that cooking food is somehow repressive to women.  Knowing how to wash clothes and clean your home – also very basic life skills everyone should know, but most women under 30 fail at miserably.

But the thing is, people still need to eat.  We still need clean clothes and we should live in a reasonably clean home.  Life on a basic level hasn’t changed.  Also, these things should be done by individuals, not hired out to services.  Eating out or ordering in every day is ridiculously expensive, impractical and unsustainable for an average person (not to mention it's unhealthy and will take years off your life).  Maid service is also not for average people.  Basic economics hasn’t changed.

And let’s face it, affordability aside, wasting money on paying someone else to cook and clean is just that, wasteful.  It’s what wasteful rich people do, not what average functional people do.

So a man who is quality – who has a good career, a good social life, who is desired by a lot of women – he can (and should) be choosy.  And you find among those men “cooking and cleaning” are very high on the list of things these men look for in women.

Whining on Twitter and Facebook, hashtagging, bitching and complaining – doesn’t change this.  Guys who have choice generally choose women who cook and clean.  And those “woke feminist” guys – well, they’re turning out to be as lame and unsatisfying as one would expect from men who center their lives around catering to the whims of women. 

(As an aside, I've noticed it's the "woke feminist men" who gravitate toward weird sex workshops that focus entirely on clitoral stimulation, and seem to be especially popular it woke feminist hotspots like the San Francisco Bay Area.  Because they are sooooooooo bad as sex and being a fucking man they think placing extra attention on the obvious symptom of sexual dysfunction will somehow lead to good sex.  And then they can't understand why their women keep cheating on them...)

But even though women really disrespect those men who do their bidding, women like having them around.  They like having the borefriend who will do their chores, cook for them, clean their place for them, and look the other way while they cheat on them with the guys who won’t do any of that crap. 

The problem is those wussy boys are looking around and noticing that their lives suck.  They’re noticing that other men are having it a lot better.  This whole dynamic used to be under-the-radar but now more and more of the “alpha men” are reaching out to help the “betas.” 

And this is very bad news for women.

There is PUA (“Pick Up Artist”) coaching where men who are successful at dating help teach less successful men.  There are other offshoots of this coaching modality.  There’s advice all over the place (some crap, some good), and certain themes keep coming up.

More importantly, men are starting to ask themselves what’s important in a relationship, instead of just looking for the next lay.  It turns out for most men “what makes men happy in a relationship” hasn’t changed much over the generations. 

A good cook is high on the list.  So is a partner who is agreeable and supportive.  A woman who maintains a clean, organized home is a good catch.  A woman who is nurturing and wants to be a good mom is very high on the list.  Interestingly enough, “career success” doesn’t rank on the list.  It’s not that men don’t want their partner to work, they just don’t care much what she’s doing at that job or how well she’s doing it as long as she’s happy and it’s not impacting any of the other things.

Basically, men of quality want women who are the exact opposite of what feminists tell women are important qualities.

And what’s happening when men don’t find good choices in their neighborhood? Well, more and more the men who have options are looking elsewhere.  Either they start looking in Middle America, or they look overseas.  South American, Eastern European, Asian and even African women are becoming more and more popular with American men.  Because they don’t have the attitude problems of Western women.

For a long time, looking for a partner from overseas was very problematic.  The quality of the women – and men looking – was very hit-and-miss, and the quality of platforms (places for potential partners to meet) was poor.  But over the past ten years this has changed.  Technology has made it much easier not only to find people all over the world, but to get to know them very well.  Online dating services have become far more savvy, international and now intra-nationally focused. 

A lot of this has been fueled by the increasing wealth and overpopulation of men in China and India who NEED to look elsewhere, but the demand in the West has been skyrocketing as well.  This is because the typical “horror stories” of finding a foreign bride are being replaced more and more with “success stories.”  Men are seeing their friends and neighbors happily married and raising families with their foreign brides and it’s removing the stereotype of “lame Western dude marrying foreign woman out of desperation,” especially when they see those guys living very enviable lives.

Oh, wait.  There are women in the world who cook and clean and take care of the home.  And they’re good mothers and treat their husbands really well.  Meanwhile I’m struggling with these angry, lazy, flaky, entitled women who can’t even take care of themselves much less anyone else.  Hmm, let me take a look at one of those websites…

Then some average-looking nobody on Twitter posts a “list of requirements in a wife” and women flip out.

But people can flip out all they want – men more and more are raising their standards and finding that Western women raised in feminist ideology are falling far short.  And they’re not bending their standards, they’re casting a wider net. 

We can already see the results, and it’ll only get more pronounced.  We have “two Americas,” the one that lives in the progressive urban feminist bubble and the one that doesn’t.  Yes, there are geographical divides, but there are also vast cultural differences even between neighbors. No, urban areas aren’t a monolith.  The progressive feminist model may be the most dominant and visible one, but there is a very strong countercurrent even in urban areas.  And that’s not even accounting for the people who get fed up and just move to other parts of the country or world.

And no amount of Twitter hashtags or Women’s Studies classes will change human nature.  More and more society is becoming stratified between the more attractive and successful men who value “traditional relationships” (and the women who desire to partner with such men) and the far less successful and desirable men who continue to suck up to women and parrot ideologies they don’t even really believe in because they think sucking up is the way to get laid.  A lot of this is simply because men who value themselves are more attractive and men who value themselves also have high standards for themselves and others.

Apparently “valuing oneself and having high standards” is offensive and politically incorrect, because it excludes those who don’t make the cut.  But then again, happiness is derived in large part from self-confidence and being good at focusing one’s time and energy on things that are worthwhile – which would include things like “priority lists.” 

Which is another way of saying that the “two Americas” is also “Happy America” and “Unhappy America.”  And judging from the attitude of the social justice Twitter mob, it’s not hard to figure out which is which.   Guys – if you want to be happy, ditch the political correctness and keep the “list.”