Remote Cell Reprogramming - This Stuff Works!

I tried the 7-day free trial for Etienne’s Remote Cell Programming, which can be found here:

https://www.spiritualselftransformation.com/remote-cell-reprogramming

I have to say I’m impressed.  I have a few nagging physical issues, and it did help a little with that.  But where it has been most effective so far is with mental clarity and emotional balance.  I feel like as I’ve grown older there’s been kind of a fuzziness showing up. I thought it was lack of sleep or stress, but I’m not sure.  Along with it I’d feel frustration, anger or apathy. 

The Remote Cell Reprogramming cleared all that up almost instantly (I didn’t even know that was part of what it does when I tired it).  HUGE difference – I’m focused, making clear decisions, getting things done in many areas.  It’s a major shift.  I’ll get the monthly subscription and report back on it, it’s totally worth it.

This stuff works!  You can try it out for free and see yourself.  Nothing to lose.

As far as everything else, I’ve been focusing on keeping the electronics to a minimum (I never watch TV except kids stuff with my son), reading, meditating, family stuff, exercise and journaling. 

For a long time I simply wasn’t inspired to blog, I felt like it took me away from my mission. Then I’d have the urge to share, but felt off, the energy felt more reactive than creative. 

And that’s where it’s at now. I’ll have some things to share at the right time.  Which I’m sensing isn’t now – except for this little plug for Etienne.

Hey Chicken Littles - The Sky Is Not Falling!

For the past two years I’ve been suffering the Chicken Littles telling us how the world is going to end and everything is going to doom us.  Well, it’s been more than two years, but acutely for two years.  All over social media, even in general conversation there’s this thread of irrational fear of the End of the World ™.

And yet, the world isn’t ending.  In fact, by every rational measure things continue to get better, despite whatever horrible thing was supposedly happening or going to happen.  The sky doesn’t fall, the sun comes up and life goes on, usually a little better than the day before. Maybe we’re too tired and stressed to really appreciate it, but the truth is there nonetheless.

All this worry and panic and hysteria just end up being self-torture (and torture of others who have to endure the emotional outbursts) and unnecessary stress and fatigue.  But life goes on quite well nonetheless.

Oh, you say, but there are Real Problems.  Sure.  The world has always had problems.  The fact that we have the luxury to examine some of these problems and blow them far out of proportion in our own lives speaks to how few “Real Problems” most of us have. 

There have always been problems.  Some of them big.  None of them probably directly involving you.  Because while the world has problems, they’re fewer and smaller in magnitude than ever before in human history.  The world is wealthier than ever before in its history, and that wealth is spread more broadly than ever before – a higher percentage of humanity is in the middle class or higher than at any time in human history.  A higher percentage of people are free from war, disease or extreme poverty than at any other time in the history of man.

In fact, for all the hysteria and focus on “problems,” the world is on the cusp of eliminating extreme poverty in this generation.  For most of human history, extreme poverty was just the norm except for a very few.  The whole world was poor.  Pretty much everyone suffered serious diseases – most people didn’t make it to thirty.  Dying in childbirth was a very real and common “problem” for women, even wealthy women.  Wars were common, prevalent and far more destructive in terms of casualties (both soldiers and civilians) than now.

Yes, the world has the capability to effectively wipe out civilization with immensely powerful weapons, but since those weapons were invented and used (only twice in combat), the magnitude and severity of wars has steadily declined and the world’s wealth has increased exponentially.

And this wealth manifests not just in bank accounts, but in what is available and what humans are capable of doing.  The massive increase in wealth has allowed record percentages of students to graduate from universities, a luxury that wasn’t available when poverty was the norm.  This wealth has allowed every country to massively extend the length and quality of human life.  Electricity and indoor plumbing are the norm, even for “poor people.”  Access to music, books, cinema, television, Internet, email, text, news, and other information and entertainment that used to only be available to a small number of wealthy is near universal. 

Wealth isn’t just money, it’s the sum product of society.  Higher wealth means more expression in all its forms.  Look at the abundance of entertainment, much available completely for free on YouTube or through streaming.  The world music scene, movies, television, videos, all the multitude of expressions (who the hell heard of things like Tantra or meditation even 40 years ago?).  Universities, online learning, libraries, so much information available from so many sources, much free or very affordable.  Think about that – you can teach yourself a new trade, network with other students, and get yourself work with that new trade, all for very little money – at home, in your free time.  In Asia.  This was humanly impossible just a generation ago.  You can teach yourself a new language, talk to people in the other country, then go visit (or move to) that country, on less than a middle-class income.  Even in the 1980s, that was entirely out of reach for the average person.

People freak out about the environment, but the fact that we can spend time and energy tending to the environment shows just how far the world has come economically.  Environmental awareness is a byproduct of wealth – poor people don’t have the time, energy or resources to pay attention to these things. 

Wealth isn’t making the planet less livable – it’s what’s allowing the planet to be sustainable and thrive.  There are six billion people on this planet.  Because the planet is wealthy enough to afford that size of humanity.  If the world were as poor as it was 100 years ago, there is no way the planet could sustain even 1/5 that population.  And it wouldn’t – 100 years ago most babies died in the first year and most people didn’t make it to 40.  Plagues, famine and wars regularly killed off people when the population would get too high.  It is the unprecedented wealth that has allowed humanity to grow, sustain and thrive, and for the planet to continue to live and grow.  (And we are even able to clean the place up – the world environment is actually significantly more clean than it was a generation ago.)

But people don’t take a step back to look at the bigger picture.  Instead we tend to focus too much on small imperfections and blow them out of proportion.  We convince ourselves that a small problem is a big, insurmountable problem and panic.  Then when the sun keeps coming up, we quietly move on to something else, never learning the bigger lesson.

And I’ll admit I’m as guilty as anyone.  I’ve spent my life losing sleep and panicking over things that mattered little in the short-term, and mattered none at all in the long-term.  I woke up from this illusion of panic only a short while ago in relation to my life.  I used to wet the bed just like all the Chicken Littles.  And it brought me nothing but unnecessary sleep deprivation, personal anguish, relationship strife and general unhappiness for no good reason.

It’s because I went through all this and learned the lesson that I can say that the world is really a happy place, but we humans are a terribly unhappy species.  And the paradox is the wealthier the world becomes, the more happiness there is, and the more unhappy we humans become.  It’s like we long to be poor and miserable and seek to return to the wretched lives of our ancient forefathers, no matter how stupid, irrational and self-destructive that is.

Happiness is all around.  Being happy is simple, but because of our human nature it is not easy.  Humans are not good at stepping back and embracing the joy of interconnected abundance.  Instead we actively seek out disconnection and disparity.  We try to be unhappy.

Buddhist teaching speaks to the human nature that seeks out unhappiness.  I’m not here to push a religious philosophy, only to say the sooner one learns to accept the self-defeating, happiness-defeating nature of humans, the sooner one can learn to un-learn human nature and embrace happiness.

Because once one is free from the self-destructive patterns of human nature, happiness is easy.  Whatever your current position in the world, abundance is prevalent and happiness is everywhere.  We are blessed to be humans on this planet in this time.  Humanity is blessed.  And whatever your circumstances, you are blessed.  We all are.

I am a voice for happiness.  I am walking that path and I want to show the world the way. 

The path of happiness is peace, stillness, grounding, gratitude, abundance, interconnectedness and a conscious un-learning of our toxic human nature that leads us to unhappiness and death.

The world is not going to end.  In fact, it is getting better every day.  Humanity is getting better. You are, too.  Embrace it.  Learn to love this world and this life, to love humanity and embrace your connection to the abundance of humanity and the universe.

Humanity is going to be growing and thriving for a long, long time. Your time, however, is considerably more limited.  It’s time to be happy now.  Join me.

Dissolving Ego

Wow.  It’s been a while since I blogged last.  Interesting how I go through these cycles when it comes to my expression.

The past few weeks have been a period of internal challenge.  As my higher self rises up, parts of me question what I’m doing, what I’m thinking.  I made a list of all the things I’d wish for if I had unlimited wishes.  

Then I started questioning all of them.

Then I got to the final question: “Supposed you were granted every one of those wishes.  Who would you be and what would you do?”  And I realized I would still be yearning.

Buddha is right.  Desire has no limit.  If all my wishes were granted, I’d start coming up with new wishes.  And the initial “hit” from each wish granted would be less and less until it was all just… “meh.”

I’ve been feeling a lot of “meh” lately in my time alone.  So I started diving in, being grateful for that feeling, being thankful to be at a place where I could finally experience the truth, that following the ego will lead to an empty, unhappy life.  I could be wealthy, have all the success in every area I could desire, but if the ego is in charge, my life would still be an empty building with nothing inside, surrounded by an empty landscape as far as the eye can see.

That’s the ego.

In an egoless existence, life has meaning.  Happiness in everywhere.  The house may be small, but it’s full of rich joy and fulfillment.  An egoless existence doesn’t want and never lacks.  An egoic existence never ceases to desire and is in perpetual lack.  Everything I manifest just turns to ash.

And my higher self began challenging me, because I have been “trying” to live an egoless life, but all my practices of grounding and meditating always had a deeper egoic ulterior motive – I as sabotaging myself.

By spending time alone going inside, I came face to face with the ultimate emptiness of my external pursuit.

A simple, minimalist life free from ego is far more full than a busy, abundant life lived through ego.  An ego free life doesn’t require a genie in a bottle granting wish after wish.  Just me.  Through the ego, higher purpose is just a to-do list; without the ego, higher purpose is embodied, one can feel his place in the movement of the universe, his infinite value.

None of this realization would have been possible had I not taken a large step back and allow myself to come to this place. Evolution is not supposed to be simple, easy and fun.  It involves challenge and suffering. And it requires to courage to face that discomfort.  The ego doesn’t go down without a fight.

I Am NOT a Coach

I haven’t posted in a long time, I’m not exactly sure why not.  But it’s time to clear up some things about my intention and purpose.

I am NOT a coach.  Repeat – NOT. A. COACH.

Yes, I have gifts that need to be shared, and yes I have a larger purpose that I need to follow.  But it is NOT. COACHING.

Today was the hilarious punctuation mark on “NO, I AM NOT A COACH.”  My social media today has been full of “special people” who call themselves various forms of “life coach,” all of whom embody the adage “Those who can’t do, teach.”  Especially when it comes to “life.”  None of these clowns has a real job, they’re not making any real money from their “coaching,” their lives are barely an existence, they’re broke, they have family trouble, their Facebook pages scream “rapist and child molester.”

And guess what they all have down for their profession?  Yep, “Life Coach.”  Or some iteration of this. 

When you see enough of the same pattern, it’s the reality.  And as I’m seeing one after the other of this hilarious parade of stupid, I realize MY OWN Facebook STILL had some BS “life coach” line, among the list of my actual jobs that pay or paid real money.  In fact it’s still on this blog.

Well, it’s gone now.  That was never who I was and it’s NOT who I am.  I actually have a real job that is crafted from a professional career that spans many years. I’m educated, trained, productive, successful, and pulling in money to support myself and my family.  I am a burden to nobody.  I have NEVER gone on Facebook hocking or begging to friends for my existence.  And I’ll be damned if I’m going to be associated with the deadweight of society that hilariously calls itself “Life Coaches” when they suck at life.  Loudly.

I have gifts and insight to share.  Yes, I have things I can impart that help others, and I do.  I may even charge for these services from time to time as the opportunity arises.  But that’s not my identity nor my profession.  The whole “New Age Life Coaching” movement is a corrupt cesspool, and it is NOT ME.  My higher calling is in a different vein.  It’s writing, it’s sharing insights, it’s basically updating on what happens in my life for the benefit of others.

If someone else wants to integrate these life lessons into a coaching program, go nuts.  It’s open source, feel free to take what you want and use as you see fit.  If there’s demand, I’ll come back to certain subjects and add more.  But the Life Coaching industry has become so polluted and such a spectacular failure that to even mention myself as such corrupts my energy. 

So I’m burning the title, which I never owned and never liked.  I’m disavowing the New Age Coaching profession in all its forms – again, never resonated for me and it’s clear now why.  Good riddance to all of it. 

What about guys like Rion, Etienne and Radoslav?  They’re still worthwhile if you’re called forth toward what they stand for.  But they’re unique in that they actually have clarity around what they stand for.  The profession doesn’t stand for a damn thing except playing on wounds to take money.

A few people stand for a higher vision and call forth others to follow them.  The Life Coaches make people feel insecure (“You’re not getting laid, you’re broke, you’re unhappy, give me money to take your mind off the problems you didn’t have until I convinced you that you had a problem!”) and then waste their time and money with distractions and never accomplish anything, leaving the person worse off.  Nobody needs that, and nobody who values themselves would want to be associated with that toxic garbage.  And I don’t.

So enjoy my insights, use them as you see fit.  Don’t call me coach.

P.S. Someone complained I was posting something “not out of love” when I called out a spiritual fraud.  Here’s my response: 

I'm going to call a fraud a fraud. There are far too many New Age "coaches" and other spiritual deadwood polluting the world with their shams or sucking on everyone else's energy. It needs to stop. As far as I'm concerned that is me speaking from love - love for what is good and right in the face of spiritual perversion. If it bothers people, I think that's a good thing. We need that.

There you have it.  That’s my truth and my higher purpose.  Shining light on darkness, being a solution, not part of the problem.

Don't Hire a Life Coach, Part 2

A few months back I made a decision to walk away from a long-time coaching modality.  I just ended everything with the coach and group.  I also unfriended or muted a bunch of people.  Looking back now I feel that was one of the best moves I’ve ever made and only wish I had done it sooner. 

All that negative energy and annoyance is gone.  I don’t have to own anything they’re doing, I don’t have to know what’s going on, and they don’t need to know what I’m up to, either.  It feels really good, and every day it feels better.

Now I’m far enough away that I can reengage on

 my terms.  The other day I had an interview with one of the members and was able to offer up some insight on my past experiences and take on the role of an outside consultant, instead of an insider.  It feels much better interacting from a place where I’m standing in my own place and living my own life.  I don’t need nor want attention or recognition.  I can simply offer my experience as “someone whose gone through some interesting life experiences.”  Nobody has to know it’s me or wonder if I’m speaking as an offering or out of loyalty, I can just share my experience and people can take what they want.

I’m very very happy here.  At the time I wrote about how students should seek to outgrow their teachers and eventually leave them behind.  I feel that more strongly now than ever.

Let’s face it, I never wanted to be like my coach.  I wanted to learn some things from him that he was very good at – and very good at teaching others about as well.  But after a point there was little more he was willing to share that I wanted to master.  He liked to keep a lot of things for himself and not share, which he said was because he didn’t trust the men to handle the information, but I think it was more based on insecurity.

So at this point the feeling is that I waited too long to make that decision.  And that was my insecurity.  But doing so really has opened up my life for other things, as well has helping me to better understand who I really am and what I want to do in this world – which has very little in common with what he’s coaching these days.

So the lesson in all this is “Hire a coach with the goal of firing your coach down the road.”  Don’t get too attached to your coach – he or she is there to help you learn the things you need to learn, and that’s it. 

I’m very wary of coaches that try to be “holistic” and want to coach you on how to live your life.  That’s YOUR job, not theirs.  Coaches are for learning specific skills you need as you go through life.  But going through life – you need to learn that skill yourself and not rely on someone else to point the way.  Life coaches inevitably will point you to the life path THEY want for you, not what YOU really should be doing.  It doesn’t take long for an astute person to pick up on the flavor of a coach.  You can look at his or her students and you’ll see similarities in “life path” which reveals where the coach’s subtle (or not to subtle) agenda.  Eventually you’ll wise up and need to un-learn all this programming from your “life coach,” and it ends up being a waste of time and money.

The best results are when you identify things you really need to get further down your path, certain skills and insights that only someone much more experienced can provide.  That’s where a mentor or coach comes in.  You do the drills, you learn the skills, you thank your coach and you move on.

It took me a long time to finally arrive at this place.  In some respects its coming full-circle from where I was when I began this journey.  In other respects, it’s another coil in the growth spiral.  I had a lot of problems I’ve worked through along the way, most of which had zero to do with the “life coaching” nonsense. But there are tools I’ve picked up, in terms of presence and self-reflection, in energy work and spirituality, that have served me very well through my growth path.  Each of those skills I sought out as I walked my path and my natural curiosity, or need to overcome an obstacle in my way, brought me to those skills. 

This is the organic process of discovery and learning, and of growing as a person.  Like I said, it feels really good to be here.  

Energetic Update - The Deluge and Sticky Energy

Things have been heating up for several months and now we’ve transitioned into a monsoonal energy flow. In other words, we’re getting flooded with water energy.  Whole energetic systems are getting swept away, physically and energetically.  This is the next phase of the planetary awakening. We’re seeing hurricanes, floods, heavy rains, typhoons, real and energetic rivers spilling their banks all over the world.  There are still fires underneath and energies are still very hot, but it’s cooling them off just a bit and basically making everything a wet, hot, sticky mess.

Energies are also very “thick,” like a syrup or magma. Things are happening all over, but it’s very difficult to move around in this energy and many people are either succumbing to lethargy or getting stuck in the goo.

I’ve noticed this dynamic in my own energy as well and I’ve been working to keep my own energetic gears from grinding to a standstill. It’s stuck all over and where it’s not stuck it’s flooded and that water isn’t moving.  My own efforts are enough to create a little more fluidity, but it’s not something I can alter significantly.  We’re just going to have to sit tight and wait until the rains soften this up enough and things get flowing at a quicker pace.

What created this dynamic?  The heat and flooding caused some long-dormant energies to shift, which merged with the already-flowing energies and basically created a sticky mess.  Most of the water energy is sitting on top of this goo and not penetrating, it’s just going to take time for enough water to penetrate and get things flowing.  The bad news it that could take a while and there’s going to be a lot more flooding before things can settle. The good news is some ancient energies are slowly opening up, which means the awakening is going apace, even if that pace is a bit slow at the moment.

The watchword is patience.  Trying to do too much or “make things happen” in this dynamic is going to lead to an overextension of energies and fatigue.  And if you’re tired, you’re at risk of getting stuck.  A lot of the so-called “spiritual leaders” and pretty much the entire Burning Man community is either hopelessly stuck or will be.  That energy will be recycled into the flow, where hopefully it can do some good (it’s not doing any good right now in the hands of these people, so better to return to power to the Earth and let it flow through than have it in the wrong hands).

The other concern is, with so much energy stuck, this is an opportune time for rogues to cause a lot of disruption – demons, viruses, energetic parasites will be out in force going after anyone they can find – imagine mosquitoes hatching during the rainy season.  This is a good time to be mindful of energetic contacts and protection.  And those who are careless in this time are at risk of getting stuck, being attacked, or being drowned in the deluge. 

Again, this is the order of things, but get used to it.  We’re stuck with these conditions for a while.

An Inquiry on Infinite Love

Love is all around us.  Yet so many feel “unloved.”  How can that be?

It’s often said that the world needs more love, but when love is there, do we notice?  How attached are we to our ideal of what love “should” look like?  How much attention are we bringing to the many expressions of love all around us, as opposed to looking for ways things fit or don’t fit our predetermined concept of the expression of love?  How can you truly receive love if you are focused on placing conditions and requirements on it before you are willing to receive?

How much of your concept of what love is comes from a cultural-based ideal, and how much is based on experiential receiving?  Can you tell the difference?  Are you able to notice how other cultures can be just as loving as yours, while expressing their love in many different ways?  And in doing so, are you able to see how you are in fact giving and receiving love (or neglecting your expression or receiving) in different ways yourself?

Some people believe physical affection (hugs, kisses) and verbal expression (“I love you”) are higher expressions of love.  But are they? Is deep eye contact the only “real” way to express love, or is love something that transcends eye contact?  What about hugs?  Some cultures really don’t hug, does that mean they don’t care about each other? 

Are Asian cultures less loving because they don’t hug as much, or they don’t say “I love you” a lot?  But those cultures express love in other ways and their families tend to stay much closer than Western families who hug a lot. 

Maybe one person’s way of saying “I love you” is by giving thoughtful advice.  Or by fixing up the house.  Or by sacrificing and making sure their children get a good education.

 

Some people feel they “need” to have love expressed to them in a certain way, but is that so?  Why would you “need” to be hugged, but billions of Asians feel loved without that constant embracing?  How much are we willing to examine our “needs,” to find out what is actually a need and what is preference?

Is it possible there is lots of love all around us and the perception of lack is actually an internal distortion?  Is it possible what we interpret as being shunned by others is really our own inability to acknowledge and receive the abundance of love being given to us all the time?  What if, instead of trying to get everyone to change their expression to accommodate our preferences, we placed our attention on gaining a greater understanding of the many ways love is expressed, and how we can better appreciate and receive that love as it is?

What if we take that a step further and examine self-love?  What if the things we are doing that we interpret as a denial of self-love are in fact distortions and misunderstandings?  What if we could learn to better appreciate the ways in which we love ourselves (and the ways we unconsciously overlook or reject that love) and place our attention on receiving, instead of judging or evaluation?

What if we could accept and embrace our inherent lovingness and lovability without judgment or shame?  What if we could explore and expand our ability to express and receive love from a place of non-judgment, understanding that love is infinite and we are each beautiful, loving and loved as we are, even as we strive to learn other facets for giving and receiving love?

What if we could see other people in the same way – as inherently loving and beautiful people, and accept their love in its own way?  Can we learn to differentiate culture, customs, traditions and habits from the inherent expression and receiving of love – and even how those cultures, customs, traditions and habits are based in love themselves?

If the universe is infinitely loving and the expressions of love infinite as well, can we understand that love is always all around us, and the only reason we are feeling “unloved” is because we are simply unable in that moment to comprehend the myriad expressions around us?  If we have to learn that giving food is an expression of love, or offering sound advice, wouldn’t it stand to reason that our ability to give and receive universal love is limited only by our lack of understanding? 

What if we didn’t need to understand, that it was good enough to know this to be true and simply loved, and received love, without filter, conditions or prejudice?  Is that truly possible?  Can we humble ourselves enough to love in such a way (and wouldn’t that humility itself be a loving expression)?

Do I need to keep inquiring, and do you need to keep reading, or are we ready to let our hearts go now?