Men: Don't #metoo. #BeYou

Yet another “#metoo man” has been busted as a hypocrite and a fraud.  This time slimy loser New York AG Eric Schneiderman.  Just as Donald Trump predicted back in 2013.

This kind of thing should come as a surprise to absolutely nobody with brain cells. #metoo movement has become a complete joke.  It began as a “brave” attempt by women to uncover the obvious – Hollywood power brokers are really, really, really creepy, perverted, disgusting losers.  Anyone who knows anything about Hollywood should be completely un-surprised about revelations about losers like Harvey Weinstein. 

But ok, let’s say for argument’s sake that you’re among the group of people living under a rock who actually look up to people like Weinstein. Then the initial revelations had some value.  But that quickly devolved into a rather pathetic attempt by women to share their old wounds, get attention and embarrass their exes.  In other words, it went the way of pretty much every Internet hashtag, turning into a joke meme.

But then, not to be outdone, men who call themselves “woke” jumped on the bandwagon with their own lame sob stories, or just trying to get attention for themselves and create a false image that they’re “woke.” 

Again, it should be obvious what’s going on here.  Men who try to present a public persona as being virtuous, instead of just, you know, living a virtuous life (which includes humility), are trying to hide the fact they’re scoundrels. Every time.  Every single guy publicly professing himself as “woke” is hiding a black heart.  Because truly good men don’t do that shit.  Because truly good men wouldn’t think of trying to cloak themselves in virtue, that’s not how it works.  The only kind of people who publicly shroud themselves in virtue are people who NEED to do so, because they ARE NOT.

A few people called this out, but a lot more actually APPLAUDED these “men.”  I’ve been saying all the time – just wait, the truth will come out.  And sure enough, it’s coming out.  To the surprise of only the stupid people, the #metoo men are coming out, one by one, and being exposed for the low lives they truly are.

Again, NOBODY who is truly a good person spends time trying to craft an image of being good.  In fact, many good men go to some length to show they are NOT perfectly good.  Nobody wants to be labeled a “goodie two-shoes.”  The good men I know are so far away from the stupid “woke” stuff and virtue signaling it’s not even funny. 

Don’t be fooled.  Image crafting is for scoundrels and liars.  Good people don’t do this.  Good men don’t, anyhow.  Maybe it’s different for women because visual is valued much higher in women.  But in men – no. 

I’m surrounded by a lot of idiots.  I give a lot of thought to simply dropping them, but I don’t.  They have value even though they are annoying and really stupid in a lot of ways.  And because I need to learn to suffer fools more gladly, it’s my weakness. 

Somehow I ended up in the middle of a group of men who imagine themselves “sex gods.”  For a while some of their stupid rubbed off on me, but now I see them as the loveable but crazy family member.  Some of these guys are neck-deep in some messed-up sex communities that are glorified rape cults.  They call themselves “Tantra,” but they seem to have little to do with expanding sensual and spiritual experience and more about gaining easy access to pussy.

Then after a few years in this environment, some of the men begin to develop a conscience – “wow, you know… just because these women are readily available doesn’t mean what I’m doing is okay, maybe I should start considering other people’s feelings instead of just being selfish “spiritual asshole.”  Then they start publicly talking about “consent” and lecturing men on how to not treat women like garbage.

The thing is, these guys, God bless em, think everyone is going through what they’re going through.  Most men AREN’T.  And most women aren’t going through what most “Tantra women” are going through.  The kind of women who would be attracted to “indiscriminate free love” are not in a good place.  They came there because they were already wounded – many experienced sexual abuse and/or drug and alcohol problems and found Tantra to heal.  Taking advantage of wounded women like that is the opposite of evolved.

These guys finally look around and realize “hey, MAYBE I’m being a LITTLE bit of an asshole and should change” and call themselves “woke.”  They surround themselves with other self-deluded, arrogant people who share a certain ideology that caters to that kind of delusion, and they delude themselves into thinking they’re leaders instead of terribly wounded men who should shut up and take care of their problems instead of lecturing others.

I’ve noticed, almost without exception, the men giving free advice about virtue and sexuality are the ones who are the most problematic in their own lives and personal relationships.  It’s to the point where when I see men doing this (as I did myself when I was acting out my wounds instead of healing), I can pinpoint where he is in his healing journey – it’s a form of denial and self-delusion as a form of protection.

Look, we’re not perfect.  We all made mistakes in our lives that we regret.  At some point, we need to own our stuff and really heal.  That doesn’t happen by jumping on #metoo bandwagons, calling yourself “woke,” lecturing others on virtue, or trying to prove to the world you’re some kind of sex god.  Those things are very obvious ways to hide the bad stuff you don’t want people to see.  It’s what bad people (like that AG) do so they can continue doing bad things.

Is that who you are?  Are you a bad person who is creating a mask so he can keep doing bad things?  Are you an immature man who doesn’t want to grow up and so he tells everyone what a sex god he is?  Are you living in pain and self-doubt and want to delude yourself into thinking you’re spiritual by creating an image instead of doing the work?

Or are you just misled?

Guys, drop the woke shit.  Get off the #metoo bandwagon.  Stop giving everyone else your lame unsolicited advice on sex and spirituality.  It’s okay.  Whatever you’re going through, it’s okay.  You don’t have to hide behind bullshit slogans and virtue signaling.  Instead od #metoo just #beyou.